My grief over my mother's death seems to be mixing with some grief I have about some other losses in my life which is mixing with and magnifying my grief over the losses my daughter is experiencing/has experienced. This, coupled with all of the reading I have been doing, and the Yahoo groups, and the thinking, the educating myself, has served to swamp me. I am sinking...
Posted by grrlTravels at February 26, 2005 7:52 PMHang in there, Amy. It can all be so overwhelming sometimes. We all have losses and sorrows in our lives, and it helps us to help our children deal with the inevitable losses and sorrows our children will encounter - all of them. It'll be okay. Your child will be okay.
At a certain point, you know, you've prepared all you can and you just need to stop. Take a break from all this reading, all this computer time, all the extra, added angst. Do something lovely for yourself and your family, go out and buy a book or a little outfit for your daughter, and trust that things will be fine. Your daughter will thrive with your love, and she will love you too.
Posted by: Brooklyn Mama at February 27, 2005 9:02 AM
I hear you, and I hear Brooklyn Mama, and I think B-Mama has thrown you a great life line. We ordered our crib yesterday. In a small way it made me feel like It's All Going to be Ok. We need to start making plans as to how we're going to find each other in China in August. I'm thinking the Biting Ladybug tee-shirts could work. They're a little edgier than DTC Group bandanas....
Posted by: Figlet at February 27, 2005 12:39 PMAnd I'll third all that. It overwhelms you and you don't need it.Was it Amber who just posted about it being okay to admit that you're scared and feeling unprepared for a bio child but an adoptive parent has to be 100% In The Know about every single "issue" in the world months before they become a real life parent? Why? Take a break and yeah...buy something cute.
Posted by: Jo at March 1, 2005 4:52 AM